There are some things in life that are easier said than done and ‘building your confidence’ and ‘pushing your boundaries’ are perfect examples of this. Understanding what you can do to try and feel more confident can be a little confusing as the answer is different for everybody! One thing we can all agree on is that small steps can lead to huge changes. Below are a few examples of ‘small steps’ to start you on your confidence building journey so that you feel motivated to try new things.
A good place to start is acknowledging how you talk to, or about, yourself. Would you speak to other people you love in the same way? A lot of the time we are quick to critique ourselves or speak negatively about our achievements and changing this narrative to a more positive one can help you understand your potential! Consider changing ‘I can’t do this’ to ‘I’m going to try my best’ or ‘I don’t know what I’m doing’ to ‘I can learn something new’.
Prioritising your needs is an important part of feeling confident and valued. Self-care can come in many different forms whether that’s reading a book, relaxing in a warm bath or taking some time to get outside and exercise. No matter how busy you are, finding a small window in your diary to prioritise yourself can really help you feel calm, re-focused and able to tackle the day! Why not set yourself a challenge to find half an hour per day to explore different kinds of self-care and see what works for you?
Meet new people
Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people is a great way to boost your self-esteem and can help you feel confident around new people. Consider starting a new hobby, sport or finding a group activity to join as you will have something in common to act as the foundation for building new friendships. Trying something new for the first time can be a little daunting so coaching lessons or group sessions create a fantastic environment to learn in especially as everyone there will be learning alongside you!
Don’t compare yourself to others
“A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.” is a well-known Zen Shin quote. It’s very easy to see other people’s achievements or lifestyles as competition rather than acknowledging your own successes. A great way to refocus on your own achievements is to write a list of things you are proud of and keep them in your purse or phone. Every time you feel self-conscious or worried you can look at these and remind yourself of how amazing you are! Some great starting points could be ‘I improved at my new hobby’, ‘My coach complimented me on …’ or ‘I did really well at …’.
Use golf to reach your goals
A love.golf session is the perfect place to try something new in a safe environment whilst surrounded by some brilliant like-minded women. Creating new friendships can open up some really exciting opportunities to socialise and will encourage you to set aside some time to switch off and prioritise you. Playing golf is a fantastic chance to take a breather from everyday life in fresh air with new friends during a coaching session AND you’ll walk away feeling great about your new golf knowledge!
Small steps are all it takes to change your outlook and help you to see how incredible you really are. No matter what you focus on first, just remember to take time for yourself, prioritise your needs and slowly push your boundaries and over time you will feel stronger, more confident and able to conquer the world!