Born and raised on a rural farm in Suffolk, Jan Fawdry enjoyed a childhood that many would call idyllic, immersed in vast open spaces and rolling green hills.
Though Jan loved growing up in this world, her desire to forge a career in teaching took her out of the countryside and into the classroom.
Starting out as a teacher, Jan progressed through the ranks and became a member of the senior management team at a boarding school in Essex, assuming the responsibility and demands that come with such a position of authority.
As Director of Learning Development, Jan would routinely engage and advise parents on learning and mental health issues, often working round the clock to facilitate their needs. “I would seldom get home before 8PM in those days, and would often be on call at the weekends too,” remembers Jan.
Fast-forward the clock to just a few years ago, nearing the end of a long and successful career, Jan’s husband John began quizzing her on what she would like to do once she retired.
“When he asked,” Jan says, “I realised that, actually, it was never something I had given a great deal of thought to.”
“I’d spent the best part of my working life stuck inside an office (with no windows), fully engaged with my work and spending very little time outdoors. I think, subconsciously, I’d assumed that when the time for retirement came, this was the next phase of my life where I could simply enjoy the time and freedom, and share this with my husband.”
Sadly, for Jan this was not to be. At the age of 61, she lost her husband to cancer. Suddenly, she had to confront a very different future, and a very different retirement.
“Initially, I just filled my time with work. It’s a natural inclination to busy yourself, thinking that this will somehow be a welcome distraction. But deep down inside, you know it’s not a sustainable form of healing.
“When you lose someone so close to you, of course, a piece of you goes with them. While you can never fully heal from something like that, there is also an element of ‘fight or flight’ that kicks in, a need to avoid feeling sorry for yourself and to get out there and do something, something for you.
“Over the years John and I had talked about trying out golf, so I decided to give it a go, and that’s when I came across love.golf.”
Spending time out on the golf course, meeting like-minded women from a range of different backgrounds, has had a profound impact on Jan’s social life – and her confidence.
“The women I’ve met have been truly inspiring, and a fantastic source of support and encouragement, both on and off the golf course.
“Being out on the course with my friends, breathing in fresh air, away from an increasingly fast-moving world – it’s the perfect tonic.”